See here is the thing. If you count my immediate family meaning aunts, uncles and cousins on both my mom and dad's side...well it's 89 people. My fiance has a big family as well.
So we have been contemplating eloping. Though we'd really much rather have a small, intimate wedding with maybe 10 people. But even mentioning that to my family (we're Italian Catholics) is something that causes all sorts of questions and guilt trips.
I am so happily in love. He is my best friend. I just want to be his wife and build a family with him. Why can't people see this isn't about a big shin dig and spending lots of money!?
Thoughts?
Ralph Lauren
I am guessing that you are getting married in a Catholic church, so isn't it possible to invite everybody to the ceremony and then just a few ppl to the reception? Or plan a very simple reception at somebody's home? just an idea. I would totally elope but guilt trips don't work on me
Good luck girl, it's your day, enjoy it!
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1Don't worry 'bout a ting!
Well, that's where the controvery lies. I don't want to get married in a Church. I want to get married with a few select people in someone's backyard or at a park. And then later down the road when we have more money we can throw a big party. You know what I mean?
2This is your day. YOUR wedding day. Not your families. Try to ignore the guilt trips (and I know that's easier said that done
) and do what you and your fiancee decide on
3Thank you! You are right, I know. It is my day and I do want something small and intimate. It would mean so much more to us if we can save up some money to throw a big, relaxed party and invite everyone to something like that later down the road. =o)
4Ah, the first thing to learn as a soon to be married woman is....Learn to be okay with your decisions and not let others opinions affect you. I know it is easier said than done.
You need to get in the habit of making the choice that is best for your family (you and your
soon to be hubby) and to nicely explain it to others without apologizing for it. 
There is nothing wrong with having an intimate wedding. People do it all the time for numerous reasons. Do what you want and don't feel guilty about it.
And one more thing, having a lot of guests doesn't always equal lots of money. If the only reason you are thinking about a small wedding is cost, then look into ideas that can cut down the budget. A big, relaxed wedding might not be as expensive as you think.
Let me know
if you need any ideas.
5I think that everyone will get that you are young and dont have the thousands of dollars to blow on a big wedding. Just be honest about it. If you are open to having your wedding in a park, and you have a big family, why not get everyone to pitch in for a party in the park pot-luck style? You could spend a couple hundred dollars on a few staple food/drink items and decorations and have everyone bring a dish in lieu of a present. You could still have a more formal affair down the line, but this way no one will feel left out. In fact, people may feel more a part of the festivities than if everything was done for them.
6We eloped (with telling our families) and have no regrets about it.
Good luck with
whatever you decide.
7i'd suggest not eloping. i almost did that w/ the guy i love. it kinda made us feel weird to think we were gonna get married in a room w/ plywood walls by someone who didn't include the sacred beliefs on marriage we held. i'm glad we're waiting.
here's my idea. you can have that tiny wedding, but invite people to a larger engagement party. that way the friends & family get to share in the event w/ you. just put on the invite that the wedding is going to be an intimate affair. that way, nobody feels left out & you can still have your dream
8That's a great idea, bringmeup.
9To throw a big party for the anniversary...
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