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The How-To Lounge: Wedding Thank you Notes

Posted By DearSugar on Jul 17, 2007 at 10:00AM

Once the wedding is over and you and your husband are working on starting a new life together, you can't forget to write your thank you notes. To get some useful tips on how to make this tedious chore not so painful,

  • When ordering wedding invitations, it's a good idea to order thank you notes in the same theme as your other wedding papery, even with the bride's new married name if applicable
  • Time is of the essence. Thank you notes should be sent out as quickly as possible, preferably two to three weeks after receiving your gift, and six to eight weeks at the very most
  • While some men might think it is the wife's job to write all the thank you notes, they are mistaken! To make things easier on both parties, the bride should be responsible for writing notes for friends and family members she invited and the groom should be responsible for his invites just the same
  • Make sure both husband and wife sign the card with their own signature
  • Hand write each note and make them personal -- be sure to mention the gift at hand and be sure to mention any special efforts made by that guest, if they traveled a long distance, made a speech, etc.
  • Even if the bride is the one writing the thank you notes, never start the card with "I". You and your husband are now "We"
  • Don't forget to thank those who weren't able to attend but did send a gift. Let them know how much they were missed
  • If a couple receives more than one gift per person either from a shower or engagement party, each gift should be recognized with its own thank you note
  • If there is a change in your address after becoming husband and wife, be sure to write the return address on the outside of the envelope so friends and family can make note of the change
  • Dedicate some time each night to writing thank you notes. The longer you procrastinate, the more daunting they will become


I hope these tips help and congratulations!