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The How-To Lounge: Starting Your Life as Husband and Wife

Posted By DearSugar on Jul 16, 2007 at 10:00AM

Starting a new life with your husband takes some getting used to, especially if you weren't living together before becoming husband and wife, so I am here with some tips to help the adjustment period run smoothly.

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  • If you weren't living together before you got married, it will take a few months to get settled, so don't be alarmed if the adjustment period is harder than expected -- you're not only getting used to living with him for the first time, but you're now also husband and wife
  • Be sure to discuss your new household responsibilities before you get too comfortable. Divvy up chores, create a budget, make sure you're on the same page when it comes to eating dinner together, cooking, nights out with friends, house guests, etc.
  • Decide if you want to change your name. If you choose to take on your husband's last name, be sure to change all your paperwork -- it will be a major headache if your credit cards don't match your driver's license, etc.
  • After you have decided who you are going to be, decide if you want to merge your bank accounts. If you do, I recommend keeping one account private, with your own money, just in case
  • Figure out whose health plan is more beneficial and change accordingly
  • Contact your financial adviser and find out if you have to change your withholdings and remember to file your taxes together
  • Just because you're married doesn't mean you won't argue, so be sure to fight fair
  • The first year of marriage isn't always a walk in the park, so communication is key

I hope these tips are helpful for you during this transition period. Congratulations on your wedding and good luck!