Sorry but i think you are being silly. This is a ring you will hopefully wear for the rest of your life. He wanted to make sure you were happy with it. Imagine how upset you would be if he got you a really ugly ring that you hated, would you be happy wearing that forever? Wouldn't you rather have a ring you love? Good luck!

I agree with Liss. he went out of his way to make everything perfect for you, and he only had the very best intentions at heart. He gave you the perfect proposal and it was a complete surprise to you. you should be busy glowing with excitement over the fact you are engaged and not worrying about little things. he wanted to make sure you got the ring you wanted. he wanted to make sure everything was perfect for you. I hope that when my boyfriend and I get engaged he does exactly what your fiance did. If i'm going to be wearing something for the rest of my life I'd want it to be something I like. The ring is just an outward symbol for everyone else to know your commitment. The proposal, how he treats you, and how you feel about eachother should be the only thing that matters. not the material things. If you want to ruin this engagement by starting off this way then by all means go and tell him what a loser he is for trying to think of you when he makes decisions that will affect you. I suggest you realize that you have something wonderful and see this man loves you enough to want you to be happy.

You could pick out three rings together and then have him pick one of the three on his own. That way, you have input and know you'll get a ring you love, but he's the one who makes the final decision.

Life is disappointing sometimes, be glad the worst you have to fret over right now is a silly piece of jewelery. There are far worse things to worry about, and I'm not talking about any aspect of a wonderful event like an engagement.

If you hate the process of ring shopping, I'm sure your fiance finds it a joy too and didn't want to have to go through the process alone. He was also probably terrified that he would get you the wrong one, he wants you to have something you'll be happy with. Suck it up.

Lily has a good idea. If it's so important that it's his decision, make sure he's very involved in the process.

I agree with what everyone has already said. My husband went out and bought an engagement ring I absolutely hated, but he did have it to present to me when he proposed. I wish something like this could have happened for me! I realize that you have romantic notions of getting engaged and married, and most people do, but it's a good sign that your husband to be is being responsible about discussing things like "money, our budget, the negotiations, etc." with you because that sort of thing is what is really going to matter in your life together, not how he proposed.

I think that you should be happy you get to pick out your own ring. I love my fiance to death, but he would have picked out a ring he liked, not that I would like, just because that's how he is. What we ended up doing is what someone said above of me. I picked out three different rings that I liked and he just picked one. He ended up picking the simplest design that I picked out, which is probably the one he like the most. I'm not complaining, I love my ring.

Don't be bummed, by happy. He's being incredibly thoughtful by thinking that you should be able to pick out a ring that you absolutely love instead of him worrying that he's going to pick out something you sort of like.

i think all the pressure u put on him for getting u "the perfect ring and perfect exciting proposal" made him hesitant about picking out this perfect piece of jewelry u would wanna wear the rest of ur life.

i think ur being a big spoiled brat. i actually preferred to pick out my ring. however much my husband knows me and knows my taste, he doesnt know my taste in wedding rings CUZ HES NEVER SEEN ME WEAR ONE BEFORE. its not like clothes and shoes.

give the guy a break. and u have the audacity to "not be able to hide ur disappointment". what a diva!!!!!

I'd be disappointed too... I can't lie... I always picture my future husband proposing to me with a ring in hand... but everyone is right its not about the jewellry...and I'm sure you realize that as well... Don't worry, you'll feel better after the wedding ha

Hey...consider that a blessing in disguise! I helped my fiance with the 4 C's and what carat and shape I wanted, along with the type of metal I wanted. If I got anything less than my 3 carat Asscher in Platinum, I would have been VERY disapointed. Trust me, men are goofballs...this isn't their "department", and he only was helping you by helping himself, so to say. So, girfriend....go get yourself your proper bling, and trust me NO GUY cares if you brag that he "picked it himself" or "you helped"!! AMEN!

Well don't plan on the romance to be the way u dreamed of it and if its ok otherwise if u cant handle that then dump de dump his *ss its really ur call right?

Well I wasn't with you until I understood that you didn't want to think about the budget part and you wanted him to pick out the ring that he wanted for you. If he did everything else 4 you how u wanted it then don't you think you could just tell him honey it would be so romantic to me if you just picked it out. I mean no circles just straigh to the point in a loving way. Don't bring up how you told him what you wanted and all that just say I would love to look at a ring you picked out with you love. Then if he says well I don't want to mess it up just say well you won't cuz you know what I want but I would love the surprise of it. If this still isn't what you want then do what some1 above said and you both pick out rings and then you pick which one you like best. Good luck just don't loose the man over a ring that could fall down the drain or get stolen with no insurance I mean you could loose your hand and have no were to put that pretty ring : ) j/k but seriously don't hurt his ego he wants to be w you forever he's happy enjoy that.

First off, congratulations to you, butterfly! What a blessing it must be for you to marry the man of your dreams!

In regard to your problem, I'd highly recommend that you try to see things from his perspective before you judge him for not listening to you.

Generally speaking, it's difficult for men to understand women and know what we like -- even when we TELL them what we like specifically! We women DO have a tendency to say things like: "I want you to do ABC for me, but I want you to do it in your own unique way, and I don't want to have to tell you how to do it." But, then when he does "abc" instead of "ABC," we get upset because it wasn't what we pictured!

It's become so cliche for men to tell women that they can't read their minds, but they only have to keep telling us because we don't listen to them and keep expecting the impossible.

Imagine how upset you would have been if he'd chosen a hideous ring. Because that's exactly what he was thinking about when he decided not to get a ring.

I understand that talking about budgets and stuff do kind of kill the romance of the ring itself. But if you really love this man, then you must believe and know that he's going about things this way because he loves you so much and wants you to have the PERFECT symbol of his love for you on your ring finger for the rest of your earthly life!

It sounds to me like you've done your best to make it perfectly clear to him what your ideal proposal would be like. You should realize that this does put a tremendous amount of pressure on your fiance. What would you have done if his proposal hadn't been amazing? Would you have said "no?"

Sounds to me like you love him and would want to marry him no matter what. You should make sure that he knows this! It sounds like he might be afraid that you won't accept him if he doesn't fulfill your expectations to the T -- hence, his hesitation to pick out a possibly sub-par diamond ring!

Tell him that the ring doesn't matter to you as much as his love. Tell YOURSELF that the ring doesn't matter to you as much as his love! And get in the habit of trying to see things from his point of view -- it'll really come in handy later in your marriage, as well as in this situation!

Once again, congratulations, butterfly! Best of luck to you and your lucky guy!

Y no the more I read about u 2 the less I think it will be a good match and better to dumo now that later right?

I really wish I was in your situation. -My Fiance proposed and he picked the ring himself. ,,,But it was not the ring he knew I really wanted. He picked a beautiful ring, but I really wish he would have picked the ring I was in love with. I wish my man did what yours did. It's you who has to wear the ring for the rest of your life and every woman should have part in the ring picking.

I really wish I was in your situation. -My Fiance proposed and he picked the ring himself. ,,,But it was not the ring he knew I really wanted. He picked a beautiful ring, but I really wish he would have picked the ring I was in love with. I wish my man did what yours did. It's you who has to wear the ring for the rest of your life and every woman should have part in the ring picking.

ladylove08 that really sucks major butt that ur stuck with an ugly ring. that happened 2 my friend and she talked to her husband and he got her a new ring and was glad that she spoke up so maybe that would work for u?

perfectesque: It's not an ugly ring, it's very beautiful. I get compliments on it all the time -even from strangers. I just wanted the one I wanted. I tried to tell him it's not right one, but I didn't want to ruin the moment even more than it was already ruined (I knew he was going to propose. His friend ruined it for me. It wasn't a surprise) And besides, it's way too late now. We have been engaged for 8 months now. I couldn't possibly tell him now or ever. ...I already made a big deal about the proposal. ...I should have communicated my request for the ring I wanted a lot clearer, but I really thought he was the kind of man who would have gotten what I wanted!

Wow have I been in your shoes! When my husband asked me to marry him he also asked me without a ring. I am very hard to suprize because I know pretty much all of his friends...but regardless I wanted it to be special and it wasn't. The ring shopping was the worst part....talking about money and trying to find something that i liked and he could afford was more stressing than the whole process of the wedding planning combined. At one point I thought about calling the whole thing off because of all the stress ring shopping was giving us. We fought about the thing the whole time and it ended up being something that was more of a hassle than a special exciting time. The only advice I can give you is to think about it as you now get to have exactly what you want and this is what he felt comfortable with. This was what he thought you would like and even though you may have talked about a suprize engagement....the proposal was a suprize....r u sure you included the ring in the whole suprize thing? Even if you did...picking out a ring for your future wife can be a seriously stressful thing...maybe it was too much for him to handle. Either way just remember that it's not about the ring. It's about your life together as a new couple.

you get to pick it out. at least then you'll have a ring you really like and isn't that what you want? he could have picked out something horrid. my fiance asked for my input before buying, too, and i am so glad that he did!

knowing your tastes is very different from being confident in his ability to bet you the perfect ring unless you gave him guidelines.

he sounds sweet, making sure you got not only your surprise but also the ring you truly want.

try not to take for granted what he really giving you because you didn't want to think about it just have it given to you.

Have a friend (a good one) give him a call and let him know! She/he can casually mention some concerns and let him know to get it on his own. If you don't want to pick it out (I wouldn't help my fiance!!!) then just have someone help you to let him know in a "secret" conversation. The only problem is you will be sneaking this info behind his back. If that is something you are willing to deal with, enlist friends. I know the desire to have a surprise engagement. Hope someone got a picture of it for you!